What would you do if the world was ending?

‘What are you doing today?’

‘If the world was ending, and you had just this last day on earth, what would you do?’

How many of us, I wonder, could truthfully answer these two questions with the same response? My guess is not many, if any.

With the exception of those with a hidden penchant for apocalyptic anarchy à la The Purge, this begs further inquiry. (We will leave this subcategory undisturbed, or rather, disturbed without interruption, as I believe the treatment of those issues, in my capacity as a personal and business development psychologist, lie just beyond the scope of my reach!). Because, without trying to get too philosophical on this, technically, every day the world is ending. Ending for someone, ending for several someones. Ending in the definitive, finite sense of concept, and ending in the shades of grey between, when catastrophic and subtle shifts alike change everything, and the world as you’ve always known it transforms utterly and completely in a moment, and that old world ceases to exist, making you question if it ever did.

And so this brings me to the reasons behind this disconnect. Why, when life is so uncertain, so unstable and so incredibly volatile, do we continue to lead our lives in such a way that we prioritise the mundane, the prosaic and the routine? Why do the overwhelming majority consistently supress our true desires, neglect our most organic pleasures and pursue the path most travelled by?

Fear.

It appears that somewhere along the way, a detrimental group delusion has been established and continues to be perpetuated generation after generation. For many, subscription to the status quo takes root in the religious and cultural conditioning to which many have been and continue to be exposed. Particularly in Ireland, where state and religion continue to be dubiously synonymous, we have all borne witness to the hard sell of ‘moral’ values and obligations. The reach and extent of religious and political subjugation in this country is an animal entirely its own, a topic relevant to this article yet potentially divergent in its complexity, thus I will not delve into a detailed dissection of this meaty little controversy catalyst at this time. Suffice it to say, we are all aware of the pervasive and innumerous framework of rules and judgments imposed by religious teachings and sympathetic political policies. We are taught from an early age to adhere to the guidelines with stoicism and without questioning. We must fall in line, keep our heads down and, ultimately ‘play it safe’; be ‘good’ citizens, ‘good’ people. Ignoring the obvious rampant hypocrisy, I have to wonder about the manifestation of these early and continuous teachings, about how they shape our world perspective and our personal aspirations, beliefs and behaviour in the long term. Similarly, and perhaps (likely), not unrelatedly we as a society appear to uphold and perpetuate restrictively narrow views on which lifestyles, behaviours and choices constitute acceptable, correct and ‘good’ decisions. This mindset applies to varying degrees on a spectrum of matters ranging from the profound (e.g. human rights and respect for the entitlements of others) to the seemingly insignificant, yet often impactful, represented in the judgmental remarks, snide comments and character assassination that occurs on a regular basis, with the collective power to deter and demoralise the recipients and/or the subjects of such commentary. How many times, I wonder, have we each let opportunity pass us by, denied our hearts and our guts, for fear of upsetting the expectations of societal norms, and/or incurring the wrath of the inevitable ridicule, disparaging monologues and the risk of ‘failure’? I would venture a guess of countless.

We are all aware that nothing in this life is guaranteed, especially the continuation of our individual existence. Yet, the acuteness of this awareness appears to have been collectively dulled. We place higher priority on the fleeting opinions of others than the observance of our own mortality. This, to me, is a bizarre reality with which I struggle to come to terms. It is fascinating to me that we, myself included, continue to choose preoccupation with the insignificant over the profound. We submit to being gorgonised by the banal; job stability, status anxiety, aesthetic presentation; yet we resist the opportunity to be galvanised by the constant potential imminence of our mortality. We have become so afraid of making mistakes that we refuse to take liberating action. So averse are we to the ‘risks’ of instability and change within the confines of our attenuated world view that we are failing on a significant scale to take advantage of our exiguous stint here on the continuum of existence.

In the end, whenever and however that end may come, none of this will matter. Not even the extent to which we exploited or squandered our individual time, opportunities and existence. We will cease to be, and in time, so will our legacy as those who hold our memory also fade. All that matters is right now, today. With grace and luck, there may be a tomorrow, but even so, there is no guarantee that tomorrow’s world will resemble that which we know today. It is wise to observe certain practices for the assurance of our future – investing our time and our other resources well for the benefit of our future life trajectory. I am not suggesting that we all throw hazard to the wind and spontaneously combust in a blaze of irresponsible impulsivity, quite the contrary, rather. I simply hope that this journalistic soliloquy may ground your fears, and in some small way, encourage you to take a step back to take the perspective of the big picture – however briefly – and feel inspired to extinguish that fear of rejection, of ridicule; to ignore the rules of acceptableness and ‘good’ sense, and to set the wheels in motion to take that chance that has been burning in the embers of your heart for as long as you can remember, and fan it into a conflagration that consumes your doubts.

 

The Purpose of Life and the Quest for Success.

‘Life is too short; It’s all or nothing; Go hard or go home; Stay positive; Be Happy

How often do we read echoes of these sentiments in the multitude of mindfulness centred, self-improvement driven and life coach guidance posts, tweets, books and ethereal InstagramXTumblr posts of wide-eyed idealists, soul searchers and happiness hunters?

A self-classified hybrid of equal parts staunch pragmatist and boundless optimist, the contradictory poles of my emotional and psychological proclivities make for interesting meanders across the nexus of the mindset spectrum. Some days I am 110% motivation, hustle and drive; my focus is laser precise and my vision is HD. Other days, I find myself staring out the window, watching the morning scurry of the worker bees, the suit and ties, the uniforms and the everything-in-betweens, and I find myself high-tailing down the contemplative rabbit hole, considering the purpose of it all, or if there even is one. We are constantly bombarded with directives to ‘be’; happy, positive, successful, humanitarian, (the list goes on) – however, has the omnipotent call to action for us to find our ‘purpose’ and act on it (‘NOW’, nonetheless) driven us to a flurry of misguided activity that lacks engagement and understanding of what motivates us, and what sustains us?

Yesterday I listened to a podcast hosted by a scientist debating the potential implications of the developments in Artificial Intelligence for the masses, from the dystopian to the utopian. For a segment of the discussion, the speaker contemplated the potential benefits to humankind whereby the application of AI to serve our logistical and functional societal needs could give rise to a world of abundance; where ‘work’ is no longer necessary, yet so too does income become irrelevant as the community needs are met by the servitude of our AI counterparts. In this utopian outlook, humans become free to explore and enjoy other pleasures such as spending time with friends and family, travel, reading, sport, etc. Considering the possibilities of this proposed New World Order, I found myself wondering about how humankind would cope in the long term with an abundance of time with which to indulge ourselves, free from the material obligations imposed upon us in our current standing. So many of us feel that our careers, our life’s work, are synonymous with our lifetime goals and major achievements; for many, our professional path provides more than a revenue stream, it becomes a definitive extension of our personality, our identity and our purpose. If this concept and ritual were to be removed, would the paradigm of purpose shift to full time hedonism? Or is the pleasure that we experience when engaging in our preferred leisure pursuits and interests proportionate to the limited availability and opportunity to experience them; does the anticipation and delayed gratification govern the ultimate extent of perceived pleasure?

Have you ever taken an extended break from work or a long holiday, and after the initial novelty of relaxation, exploration and disconnection has worn off, began to look forward to returning to your daily grind and routine? Conversely, we look forward to holidays with much more vigour and anticipation when the time elapsed since our last vacation or downtime has been considerably longer, whereas vacations placed closer together illicit a more blasé lead time. Similarly, for those members of the upper echelons of society who currently or previously enjoy the benefits of a relatively serviced lifestyle, is part of the pleasure not derived from the distinction of hierarchy? The mere fact that they get to experience something that others cannot contributing to the overall experience?  If so, and if we were to find ourselves in this fully-serviced, utopian land of boundless abundance, how quickly do you think eternal leisure and instant gratification would lose its shine? If wars were ended, hunger sated and inequalities eradicated, would we continue our quest for a greater ‘purpose’? Would the result be satisfaction or saturation, and what would be the implications on our psyche as a whole?

In my swirling cloud of contemplation, I was struck by the simple and profound thought that purpose is that such as reality; absolute in its subjection and as mythical, tangible and transformative to the extent to which we appropriate. Perhaps, then, there is no ‘purpose’ to the universe, other than that which we give to it – we are all walking, breathing illusionists, giving rise to ‘realities’ through our internal processes and external reactions, based on the dynamic feedback loop of our emotional, psychological and physical interactions with the world around us. We have all heard the term ‘perception is reality’ regarding the manner in which we each process the same informational input differently, according to a myriad of unique influences and biases formed through personal experience, psychological, biological and emotional differences. These differences mould and filter the input so that the implications and analysis of the input registers uniquely for each of us, and these variations in interpretation can be subtle or significant.

So. How can this web of philosophical procrastination be harnessed as a utility for improving the way in which we live our lives, the actions we take to give our lives meaning and our pursuit of that meaning so as to create a positive, progressive and fulfilling landscape for our life trajectories? This is where that old chestnut of ‘balance’ comes into play. It seems that as we progress through the ages, the focus increasingly shifts towards an emphasis on more. Better, faster, longer, skinnier, richer, more passport stamps, more clothes, more promotions, more degrees, more relaxation, more meditation, more, more, more. Yet, we are in such a blinkered race to more, that we are eclipsing the perilously underrated profundity of enough; and more importantly, of balance. Specialisation and clarity are important, however diversity and expansion are crucial. In all areas of life, it is a condemning shortfall to restrict your participation and energies to one element, and to syphon your resources to the exclusion of concomitantly diverse balancing experiences, relationships and education. In your quest to pursue your ‘purpose’, I urge you to consider the rich tapestry of life that lies available to us all. Narrowing your focus so that you obscure your peripheral vision could result in missed opportunities far greater than the target in your scope. It is important to remain open, present and inquisitive, and to nurture and develop a dynamic and adaptable approach to all elements of life, for you never know from whence the next life changing spark will enkindle. But most importantly, in the insatiable quest for success, purpose and contribution, try to make some purchase on the here and now, and, once in a while, to allow yourself to just simply ‘be’, full stop.